Full text of bestselling author Rachel Smets’ talk: Stop comparing! Be the best YOU! at TEDxHarderwijk conference.
Notable quote from this talk:
‘Comparison is the thief of joy’
Listen to the MP3 Audio here:
Rachel Smets – Expat Coach, Bestselling Author
Well, imagine you’re sitting in a cafe downtown and you order your favorite coffee. And while you wait, you sit around and observe the people around you.
The waitress comes and brings your coffee. And after a bit of a small talk, you find out she’s the owner of that café. And she smiles and walks away and serves other people.
And you look at her and you sit back and you think, ‘Hmm, I wish I had that too. I wish I had my own business. I wish I was that happy. I wish I had that much freedom. I wish. I wish…’
Well, that waitress, many years ago, was me. People told me how lucky I was to have my own business, to be that happy and to have that much freedom.
Lucky? Cleaning up every night; working seven days a week; working weekends, when everyone else was partying and relaxing… days I had to smile on the outside and feel like shit on the inside.
Lucky? So it seemed.
But that’s when I learned, ‘Comparing yourself makes no sense.’ Those people were comparing themselves to my ‘seemingly’ perfect life, resulting in feeling bad and putting themselves down. And they didn’t even know half the truth.
Those years taught me how comparing ourselves to others can make us feel miserable. But I learned how to turn it around and feel good instead.