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Stop Hating Your Body; Start Living Your Life: Taryn Brumfitt (Transcript)

Taryn Brumfitt is an internationally recognized keynote speaker and the fiercely passionate thought leader behind The Body Image Movement.

Here is the full text of Taryn Brumfitt’s talk titled “Stop Hating Your Body; Start Living Your Life” at TEDxAdelaide conference.

Taryn Brumfitt – TEDx Talk TRANSCRIPT

You are fat. And you are disgusting. You are ugly. You have too many wrinkles. Your freckles are hideous. It sounds pretty offensive, right?

But these are the messages that have been thrown at us every single day. And many of us are buying into them. I did.

Just a few short years ago, I stood in front of the mirror, and I said to myself, “You are fat, you are disgusting, and you are ugly.” I thought that my self-worth on this planet was determined by how I looked.

So, in a body that I hated, I took myself to the surgeon, and I stripped down to my underwear, and I declared, “Help me, for my body is broken.” And he agreed.

He grabbed my fat down here and said, “I think we should remove that.” He picked up my breasts like they were dirty tissues and said, “They should be up here. Let’s fix them.”

What he didn’t know was that this stomach had housed three children, and these breasts had fed 4,000 meals to those three children. But I was so elated because the body that I thought was broken was going to be fixed.

And what I’ve realized – now, but not back then – it wasn’t my body that needed to change, it was my perspective. So many people, so many human beings across the planet, are being anchored down by this negative and dark passenger inside their heads that says, “You are not good enough.”

And you would agree with me, I’m sure, it’s hard to navigate life with this inner voice.

Now, I’m not here today to shame you or make you feel bad. I’m here to ask you to shift the way that you think. The conversation that people are having with their personal trainers, with their friends, with their hairdressers is one of negativity when it comes to their bodies.

For women, this inner voice is bad enough, but we have to walk down the street where there are billboards that tell us that we should be anything other than what we are. A bus goes past with a hot-looking chick on there. You open up a magazine, there’s more imagery. You turn on the TV, you watch a movie – it’s everywhere.

It’s such a battle for women. It is so hard. And it’s devastating what these messages are doing because we are not putting ourselves forward and using our brilliant minds, because we are being anchored down.

And we are buying into these messages that tell us that we are not good enough, and then if you don’t conform to the ideal shape of a body or what “they” determine as beautiful, your only choice is to spend your life being at war with your body: “Fight the signs of ageing”; “Defy your wrinkles”; “Cover up your trouble areas.”

If you think about a young baby, in your mind, right now, think about a young baby with dimples on its chubby, gorgeous thighs. It’s delicious, right? But if you are 25, and you have dimples on your chubby thighs, it’s a very big problem. And you’ve only got a couple of choices: go to the surgeon and have liposuction, or the very least, get yourself a gym membership.

Or you could do and make the choice that millions are, and that is to take a step back from life and start being small and hidden. Cover up your thighs; never wear shorts. If you have arms like mine, that wobble well after I’ve finished waving, never wear a singlet or a sleeveless dress. If you hate your body in a bikini, then just don’t go to the beach or enjoy that time with your kids at the pool.

Don’t do it. If you really, really hate your body, then you can stop being intimate with the one that you love. These are the choices that people are making every single day. And body-shaming and body-loathing and negativity is a universal problem. We’re all experiencing it.

I believe that we have truly lost our perspective. We have been bullied and shamed into thinking that “this” is a problem. I want to share with you a small clip from the documentary “Embrace” that I’ve just made.

(Video) ♪ You suck me in ♪ I’m hooked on you ♪ I can’t win ♪ No matter what I do ♪ All around me ♪ Everywhere I look ♪ It’s not fair ♪ You’re a snake ♪ Setting traps all over the place ♪ Never showing your face ♪ You’re killing us slowly, sometimes quickly ♪ Don’t you care? ♪ And that’s how you want to live your life ♪ You want me hungry and horny ♪ Crawling after you ♪ And begging for another spoon of it ♪ You want me stupid and lonely ♪

But I think we’ve all had just about enough of it. They’ve got us right where they want us. Hungry and horny. Wanting every product that they say, “Buy me.” We do. But I tell you what. This is not a tragedy. I want to share with you what I think is a tragedy.

This is a tragedy. Girls that went to school for an education and were taken and kidnapped. They were stolen. Many were raped, many were murdered, some came home, but they all didn’t come home. And I can’t fathom, being a mother to three children, the thought of taking my three children to school in the morning, and going to get them at the end of the day.

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